I don’t know if I will be able to clearly articulate my thoughts about the Cosby situation. It’s all so complicated in my opinion. And I have so many thoughts on it. So I guess I’ll just start and hopefully this won’t be the worse post ever.
Today, Beverly Johnson revealed that she too was drugged by Cosby. It was kind of chilling to read. And I immediately felt disgusted by it. It’s amazing how after all of these alleged encounters, he’s remained widely regarded as one of our great American (and African-American) treasures? It’s really unbelievable. If you care, read the article Johnson wrote. It’s very well written and I think it will hit a lot of people in the way that it hit me.
I have to say, I haven’t been taking the side of anyone in all of these stories. I’m right in the middle. I know, how can I stay on the fence when there’s so many women coming forward with their stories? I don’t know…if I can explain it.
To start, I guess it’s just so unbelievable that BILL COSBY, of ALL people, would do something like this. We all know this man in a number of ways. I know him as Dr. Heathcliff Huxtable. I know him as the Jell-O Pudding man. I know him as the voice behind Fat Albert. These images evoke this person that everyone loves. So, to tell me that this lovable, wonderful, caring individual is being accused of drugging, assaulting and raping women, I’m just…lost. I’m not going to lie, I really cannot believe it. I really do not want to believe it. I can’t even wrap my mind around it. I don’t know if I’ll ever wrap my head around it, to be really honest. It seems so far-fetched to me given my current image of him.
Now, this doesn’t mean that I automatically do not believe the women who are coming forward. I’m not saying they’re lying or embellishing or anything of that nature. For me, I just need more information. I need another side of the story. I know, that sounds very much like I don’t believe the women, but there are two sides to every story and I need to hear what he has to say for himself. Seriously, where is Oprah with the exclusive interview!
At this point, nearly 20 women have come forward and he has yet to say anything. I’m guessing, he’s either trying to see if this blows over, or perhaps he’s trying to gather a strategy with his legal team? I don’t know. But I think at this point, he needs to speak up if he wants to save any sort of face. Because let’s face it, he’s built quite the career for himself. Does he really want to go out on this note? I really hope not.
I know some people don’t give a damn about what he has to say. Some people immediately believe these allegations, based on the “fact” that he’s been known in the industry to be a ladies’ man/womanizer. I’ve seen this written several places and all I have to say is, I had no idea. [Pause. I think Cosby is hilarious. But umm, is he really all that attractive? When I heard the womanizer thing, I was like, “really??”. Who knew.] But, given the amount of women coming forward, I think it’s safe to say the man definitely got around. And how he did this while married, is beyond me!
I really feel horrible for his wife, but we have to assume she knew what was going on, right? Perhaps she didn’t know the real situation that’s being revealed now, but she had to have known he was stepping out on her, right? Unbelievable.
As I said, I don’t know how to feel about it all. I’ve read several stories from women and in some cases, I have to say, I can’t stand by them. There were a few women who relied on Cosby’s financial support. One woman stated he supported her through four years of college! What?! I cannot support her. If she willingly chose to endure his behavior in exchange for financial support, I can’t support that. I feel bad for women who don’t have the self-esteem to rise up from situations like this, but I just can’t bring myself to support her decision to stay and go through God knows what with him.
There were also women who continued to go back to Cosby after he drugged/assaulted them. And the reasons are varied. It seems like some of them were newbie actresses and felt like he could get them into doors with his connections/power. I cannot support them either. To be clear, I’m not saying that they deserved what he did to them, nor am I saying I think they’re lying. But once they willingly decided to return to him because of what they felt he could do for their careers, I can’t support them. And that’s because of how I was raised. No way in hell would I ever subject myself to abuse like that by anyone! And I completely understand that not everyone is raised to think of themselves highly and to stand up for themselves. I get it. I’m just saying, I can’t support someone returning to someone who will abuse them (in any kind of way) in exchange for money, connections, etc, etc. I just can’t.
On another note, I’m very…confused, as to why these women are all coming forward NOW. It’s been thirty years since this occurred for some of the women. I guess there’s no time like the present? Again, that doesn’t mean I think the stories are untrue because this happened so long ago. I’m just curious why bring it up now? In most of these stories, they all seem to state that they kept quiet because they felt no one would believe them. That bothers me to such a high degree. It bothers me that they felt he was SO “powerful”, no one would believe their stories. This is kind of off topic, but it’s why I feel we really need to stop obsessing over celebrities. They are regular people!! It’s that obsession that leads these celebs to think they can do whatever they want and get away with it. This story is a huge example of it. Putting celebs on pedestals never seems to end well.
To conclude, I really just don’t know where to stand on all of this. It’s all so horrific, sad, upsetting and a whole host of emotions. I feel bad for his family. Again, I wonder to what extent did Camille know about everything. Surely, she knew he was with other women, but who really knows. And I wonder if she will ever speak out about this? To think, she may know about the women, but the drugging and assault? I can’t even imagine her devastation.
What are your thoughts?